It's funny how we are always trying to find a scapegoat. It is everyone else's fault but my own. How we end up at the conclusion that someone else was the cause of something I did is so far beyond me sometimes. It is too easy to displace blame instead of taking responsibility. Have you ever found yourself hiding your disappointment in yourself in anger towards other people? Somehow it is their fault that you failed. Let's get even deeper. Have you ever blamed God for your shortcomings? I know we all have. Free will is both beautiful and a curse. We choose what we want to do whether it is to do God's will or our own will. So when we chose our will, free will does not keep us from the repercussions of our choice. We are guilty when our choices do not turn out how we had hopes and we have to take responsibility for those choices we make. I am learning to pause before I place blame and check myself. When I am angry at someone, what was my role in the situation and am I really just disappointed in myself? Doing this takes a whole lot of humility.
Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. 1 Peter 5:6 NIV
One thing that I have done in the past is allowed my mistakes and taking on blame to tear me down. I beat myself up a lot. That is exactly what we try to escape when we blame other people. We don't want to feel bad and sometimes we take it too far to the point of depression. That is what the enemy wants. Experiences and mistakes are meant to help us to grow. They are meant to make us humble so that God can get the glory in the end. When we take blame too far, even when we take on the blame ourselves, it brings nothing but distraction; distraction from the growth we could get out of it.
So next time we get ready to point the finger, let's point the finger at ourselves first and evaluate where we went wrong. Let's pray that God teaches us how to follow his will and make the right choices. Let's not beat ourselves up and become angry but be humble in every situation.